Over and over again, women ask us: “Why isn’t anyone talking about this?” This being the struggles, the pain, the uncertainty, the mistakes, the feelings of unworthiness, and other difficult realities of life in ordinary time. So, let’s talk about it!
Join us for ‘Sisterhood Chats,’ where we talk about what matters most: relationships, self-compassion, belonging, Jesus, and much more.
I’m the sort of person who other’s can count on. I’m the sort of person who isn’t very creative. I’m the sort of person who gets along with anyone. I’m the sort of person who…[finish the statement]. Our self-appointed identity, knowingly or unknowingly, informs our decisions, choices, behaviors – in short – all that we do and do not do.
I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do….For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord! – Romans 7:15, 22-25
We may feel frustrated with aspects of ourselves, like St. Paul clearly expresses in the verses quoted above. We may be aware of criticizing ourselves for procrastination, mistakes, inaction, or other perceived imperfections. The truth of polarities tells us, that whenever we are aware of an aspect of ourselves, we can also find in ourselves, the polar opposite. If I procrastinate, it is true that I also take initiative. Yet, if I label myself as a procrastinator, locking that into my self-identity, I will not see my initiative-taking. I will be unconscious to it and to any other behaviors that conflict with my self-appointed identity – Procrastinator.
In October’s Sisterhood Chat, we’ll explore the rich, growthful territory of polarities. We’ll experiment by “trying on” qualities that we may not readily see in ourselves, but that we are interested in owning, for example patience or competence or courage. And we’ll invite Jesus in, asking Him to shine His light and help us see ourselves more clearly.